Forced relaxation: tactics that stop you from stressing
And again, a new, stone-age old phenomenon has acquired international interest. It’s Dutch and it’s called ‘niksen’, which basically means ‘doing nothing’. The beauty of it lies in the use of it as a verb, which makes it a legitimate activity. Especially after a very busy period, I often find it very hard to immediately enjoy my free time and to relax again, which is often quite annoying. I can’t imagine you guys have never had this problem, so I decided to share my tips here on how to return to a relaxed state of mind again.
1. An organised life is an organized mind
The first thing I do after a busy period is to clean the house. I am the kind of person that has a room that reflects my state of mind, so being busy in the mind usually also means a messy room. However, it works both ways, so cleaning and organising my room can also clean and organize my thoughts. I have already written something about it in the article Stress: the good, the bad and the ugly, and the summary is that on the one hand it cleans my thoughts, but the physical activity of it also stimulates my happy hormones. A more specific way to organize is to make lists, since I always have plans for the times that I am not or less busy with work and school. By making a priority list of those things, I don’t feel as much ‘lost’ as I would feel otherwise, since I am creating purpose for my time again.
To take that physical activity up a notch, exercising is a great way to relax. By letting the muscles work extra hard, it’s easier to let them relax completely afterwards. Also, it takes my mind off my worries and again, it stimulates dopamine in the brain, which is good against stress. I prefer to either go to the gym for an intense session or relax more by windsurfing or dancing, it depends on my motivation beforehand (since I need less motivation for the latter two options).
Do something that really floats your boat. This is what exercise does for me as well, but also other hobbies can do this. This way, you will relax without even noticing it until you stop. This can also mean having drinks with friends, reading a good book or watching a movie you had been meaning to watch for a long time anyways. I found that it only works if you really lose yourself in the activity, because when you still worry about grades you need to get back etc., you can’t relax.
4. Listening to music or to podcasts
Another thing that can immediately relax me is to listen to good music (live or just at home) or to listen to podcasts (for inspiration, take a look at the article Lovely podcasts). Especially during a cleaning session or during fitness, it can really help to relax my mind, because when listening to anything, no other thoughts can enter my mind. Some podcasts can also feel like a productive use of my time, since knowing the classic stories or hearing career advice is important to me. In an ideal world, I would love to read more psychology or marketing books, but because of a lack of time, podcasts are easier since they make it possible to multitask.
Especially when I am mentally stressed or overwhelmed, meditation can be a lifesaver to me. It did take a lot of practice to be able to always focus on it and I still need to regularly practice to keep me capable. But when I do, it can really relax me like nothing else. Also, it often tells me what to do when I feel torn between two choices, which really helps in stressful times to prevent too much choice stress. What I love about it, is that this is one of the only things that you also can do at work for 5 minutes and it already feels effective. I will soon write an article about my favourite meditation exercises, so you can try them out to!
Spa’s are expensive, but you can do it yourself as well! Take a bath or a long, hot shower (including a hair mask and a nice scrub), continue with a facial mask and a foot bath (possibly with some foot soak). Do your nails, get your body lotions out and maybe even give your face and head a little massage. Taking extra care of yourself some days can really help you to relax your body and then, your mind will follow. Drink a nice hot tea or a lovely smoothie on the side for the extra fancy feeling and watch your favourite comedy during, since laughter is always a good idea.
Thank you so much for reading this article and please tell me what tips you have to relax!
Lots of love,
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